Comments on: Kicked to the curb http://cancerspot.org/2008/05/14/kicked-to-the-curb/ this is the story of my journey with breast cancer Tue, 07 Sep 2010 19:47:33 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Wendy S. Harpham, MD http://cancerspot.org/2008/05/14/kicked-to-the-curb/comment-page-1/#comment-89423 Wendy S. Harpham, MD Wed, 28 May 2008 00:25:29 +0000 http://cancerspot.org/?p=317#comment-89423 Hi, My baby was 22 months when I was diagnosed. He just returned from completing his freshman year at college. All 6'3" of him leans over for a kiss whenever he says "hi" or "good-bye." As for the sadness about them not needing you the same way, I'll just share that my longterm prognosis was terrible when my cancer recurred a second time 2 1/2 yrs after my original diagnosis. So when my kids pulled away and passed milestones, I was a little sad but mostly thrilled. As I saw it, my purpose as a mother was to give them the love, confidence and tools to cope and grow...away from me and into their own lives. I'll also share that I love being an empty-nester. I love connecting with my adult children by phone, texting and in person. And I feel like I'm dating my husband all over again: candlelight dinners, long talks at night, etc. Life is good. Wendy www.wendyharpham.com Hi,
My baby was 22 months when I was diagnosed. He just returned from completing his freshman year at college. All 6′3″ of him leans over for a kiss whenever he says “hi” or “good-bye.”

As for the sadness about them not needing you the same way, I’ll just share that my longterm prognosis was terrible when my cancer recurred a second time 2 1/2 yrs after my original diagnosis. So when my kids pulled away and passed milestones, I was a little sad but mostly thrilled.

As I saw it, my purpose as a mother was to give them the love, confidence and tools to cope and grow…away from me and into their own lives.

I’ll also share that I love being an empty-nester. I love connecting with my adult children by phone, texting and in person. And I feel like I’m dating my husband all over again: candlelight dinners, long talks at night, etc.

Life is good.
Wendy
http://www.wendyharpham.com

]]> By: Karen Lynch http://cancerspot.org/2008/05/14/kicked-to-the-curb/comment-page-1/#comment-87599 Karen Lynch Fri, 16 May 2008 01:34:39 +0000 http://cancerspot.org/?p=317#comment-87599 I have to tell you, I totally understand. My oldest son is 8 1/2 and he's just pulling away from me in dribs and drabs (the PDA is not happening, for sure). While my 6 year old still climbs on my lap, rests his head on my chest and wants to kiss me on the lips (what a contrast)! I feel bittersweet about it, but mostly thankful to God that we are around to watch our boys take these life steps, right? I have to tell you, I totally understand. My oldest son is 8 1/2 and he’s just pulling away from me in dribs and drabs (the PDA is not happening, for sure). While my 6 year old still climbs on my lap, rests his head on my chest and wants to kiss me on the lips (what a contrast)!

I feel bittersweet about it, but mostly thankful to God that we are around to watch our boys take these life steps, right?

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